![]() “We cannot have a world where everyone is a victim. “The paradox of trauma is that it has both the power to destroy and the power to transform and resurrect.” They have no idea who they are outside of trauma and that unknown is terrifying.” “People are afraid to heal because their entire identity is centered around the trauma they’ve experienced. – Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become experts at ignoring their gut feelings and numbing awareness of what is played out inside. “Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. It isn’t my personality, hobbies, or interests. ![]() “A trigger is the connection between the conscious mind and a buried painful memory.” When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.” When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. It does not disappear if it is not validated. Now, you’ll survive the recovery.” Quotes About Trauma “People-pleasers often start out as parent-pleasers.” “Your abusive parent cheated you out of a childhood and you have every right to be angry about that.” – Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving Many of us come out of childhood believing that what we have to say is as uninteresting to others as it was to our parents.” “Perhaps there was no more detrimental consequence of our childhood abandonment than being forced to habitually hide our authentic selves. “One believes things because one has been conditioned to believe them.” “Children need models rather than critics.” They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful – something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for.” Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. ![]() “Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. “Children are not things to be molded, but people to be unfolded.” – Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child “Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery and emotional acceptance of the truth in the individual and unique history of our childhood.” “Abuse is never deserved, it is an exploitation of innocence.” “Adulthood is an attempt to become the antithesis of the wounded child within us.” “Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.”
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